Is It Ok????

Good Evening Luvbugz!!!! I know it’s been forever but let’s just hop back into the swing of things. These photos along with that excerpt were posted on Instagram by one of my friends on the site. I was immediately intrigued to chime in on the debate. Y’all know how I am!

Now the end of his question was cut off when I copied it. The final question asks: how should victims of such cases, who’ve listened to these two popular individuals in particular, feel about it?

I felt as if that was a GREAT question to ask. My take on it is simple. (Please excuse my social media grammar.) “It’s their life so I could give a rat’s ass in actuality. BUT as public figures, they’ve those guys names through the mud then want to reconcile. They got all these women looking up to them & backing them up. Pure bullshit!!! That’s like when ya parents told u “do as I say not as I do” as a kid.” Of course the debate begins and I continue on with my say on it all.

Another friend of my Instagram buddy mentioned something about it being their life as well and they’re human. She compared them, basically, to your typical black couple that isn’t famous. She called the man and woman Tasha and Tyrone stating that Tasha usually takes Tyrone back after the domestic dispute.

I agreed with her. “True!!! Lol @ (her username) but I’m sure Tasha dropped all charges on Tyrone too…IF she ever filed in the first place!!! That’s the only thing that got to me. I got brothers & I’d be pissed if a chick ruined his life (either of my brothers) then wanna be hugs & kisses after he’s stripped of his means of making income. Shit is for publicity! Both chicks became more popular AFTER the fact.”

I continued on with my final statement. “Ppl will love who they love & the way they love, period. I’m all for that…if u like it, I love it!!! But that’s not love if u can play a part in ending a career or putting it at a standstill for a while. It’s vindictive, selfish, & spiteful. Both guys slow as fuck to take them back! But love is…what love is. I just don’t think its love. Comfortability or good sex perhaps, but not love.”

This is just how I feel about these situations and any other domestic violence situation. I love me some Rihanna and I’m fond of Evelyn as well. Of course I’m a Chris Brown fan and Chad Johnson such a character & he has a great heart in my opinion. Granted, I don’t know EITHER of them on personal level. This is just from the good deeds Chad has done, my love for the great music that Chris and Rihanna gives the world, and the entertainment Evelyn gives her viewers.

I’ve never been in a domestic violence situation with a spouse but I’ve seen this time and time again my entire life. I have female family members close to me that have dealt with domestic disputes and I can say first hand, from being there in front of it often, it isn’t a pretty sight. These types of situations can become very ugly and brutal, deadly even. They are celebrities but yes they are human and we all make mistakes, that’s a given. It just bugs me that celebs often get upset when people are “in their personal business” yet they put it up there for public display. People are going to be nosy and give their opinion of you and your relationship if you’re broadcasting it worldwide. Now, if they were together and didn’t televise the shit, per say, then I can understand the frustration.

The bottom line is, Rihanna and Evelyn should be smacked for joining those outreach groups and foundations and then turning around and going back. Had they been “regular chicks” I would still feel the same way. I feel like you should lead by example. Examples: Don’t protest “No Hate" and then you are gay bashing! Don’t become a PETA advocate and at the next award show we see you rocking a mink. The shit is flat out, DISRESPECTFUL!!! There are women that are losing their lives to domestic partners EVERYDAY!!!! (I'm sure some men too!) Some women want to get out and feel as if they can’t and need an outreach program or foundation to help them get away or fund it because they’re financially dependent on that partner. This just sets a bad example, that’s all I’m saying. Had Rihanna or Evelyn only told family and it stayed in the family and the world didn’t know, it wouldn’t be as bad. But regardless, there is someone that’s in a similar situation that could feel completely helpless now or think that’s the way to go.





~ Thanks for reading! Please reply with your opinion. ~

There's Something About Those STICKY Situations...

First and foremost, this is NOT what some of you may think it's about. So go ahead and get your mind out the gutter! LOL. I know someone was thinking, hmmm....

I can't even lie though, when I wrote out the title my mind went left field too. Hahaaa, gotta love the human mind!

Anywho, I would like to discuss sticky situations that pertain to relationships.....or lack thereof. The kind of situations that make you question yourself, your motives, morals, values and so on.

When dating or just being involved with someone, whether it be sexual or on "talking" terms...there are ALWAYS boundaries. Now what those boundaries are and how you go about them differ when dealing with certain people, but to me some things should be the same no matter who is involved. This is quite bittersweet for myself and others.


So let me give you some examples...

Is it ok to date someone that knows your ex or past sexual partner? If so, why or why not? If it's ok, what are the rules for doing so?

What if you were talking to someone but never had sex...but the 2 of you were mentally/emotionally attached...is it ever ok to date someone they know?!


We all tend to have our take on these issues but I know there would probably be bias answers (with specific individuals). I like to call these "what the fuck" moments! Lol. I've had to question my moral character when dealing with this too.

So let me put myself on the chopping block for a second. *hypothetically of course ;o)*

So me and "Joe" dated for 3 years and claimed to be in love and the whole nine right? We've had several "make up to break up" moments but always found ourselves back with one another. This last breakup was different though, we called it quits for good. We've been apart for 4 months now and these last few weeks, 2 guys we both know have been trying to get with me. One guy, "Aaron," use to be best friends with "Joe" but they fell out about a year ago. Now me and "Aaron" met when I started dating "Joe." Is it cool to get with him?!

I would say the shit is trifling and that's a no go, no way around it but some may think differently.

Now this other cat, "Cassidy" has been my homeboy FOREVER!!! We've known each other since the sandbox but he has been cool with "Joe" for about 10 years. He's my best friend but still they're friends, so now what?!


Ok so, those are pretty sticky but what if me and "Joe" only talked for about 3 months and went on dates but never had sex? We chopped it up and wanted to learn more about each other and then decided not to take it down that road. Would it be ok to give "Aaron" or "Cassidy" a shot then?!

***If no sex was involved and there was no "real" relationship, I'd be like WTF...as I have before! So please share your thoughts, you could possibly help someone out that is going through this.

Gone Too Long

Whaddup doe?!

Lovers and friends, thanks for joining me once again. I know it has been a while since your girl been on blogger...lost some followers and all that but it's cool I'd leave too! Lol.


But I'm back...new pc. The screen went out on my last one but I got a few new posts today and hopefully more on the regular.

But let me get to work on those for y'all, hope you enjoy. Until then, listen to this song...it seems perfect for the occasion. :o)

Men & Women and Our Feelings...

I was on Twitter a little while ago and friend of mine posted this:

"Women can front all dey want but when u're getn piped right, u develop feelings in some sort of way." (via @skmusic)

So of course, me being who I am...I had a response.

"Agreed! Goes both ways doe."

He agreed with me as well and I took that as an ok to expound a bit more.

"Yup & women would be cool w/expressing feelings but men keep their feelings bottled in..so we be like wtf imma look stupid 4?! So of course we put on like y'all do. Which is a dumb cycle but u know..that's life! Lol."

I thought this would be great topic for us to discuss and maybe we can dig deeper into the reason behind each gender feeling the way that we do and possibly come up with a solution. A solution is a bit far-fetched but hell, anything can happen right?!

Even though I'm well aware of what feelings are; I decided to hit up my good friend dictionary.com for a better understanding of the word and ALL of its meanings.

Feeling:
noun
1.the function or the power of perceiving by touch.
2.physical sensation not connected with sight, hearing, taste, or smell.
3.a particular sensation of this kind: a feeling of warmth; a feeling of pain.
4.the general state of consciousness considered independently of particular sensations, thoughts, etc.
5.a consciousness or vague awareness: a feeling of inferiority.
6.an emotion or emotional perception or attitude: a feeling of joy; a feeling of sorrow.
7.capacity for emotion, especially compassion: to have great feeling for the sufferings of others.
8.a sentiment; attitude; opinion: The general feeling was in favor of the proposal.
9.feelings, sensibilities; susceptibilities: to hurt one's feelings.
10.fine emotional endowment.
adjective
11.sensitive; sentient.
12.readily affected by emotion; sympathetic: a feeling heart.
13.indicating or characterized by emotion: a feeling reply to the charge.

So now that it is evident that we know what a feeling is and what feelings are caused by; I questioned the aspect of our feelings completely and how we go about them.

When is it ok for a man or woman to express his/her feelings to his/her partner? (whether they're a "couple" or just kicking it)

Does the amount of time REALLY matter?!

Does waiting TOO long hender the relationship or make the feelings stronger?

How can we change that for the better?!


Me personally, I feel like women love to show emotion and affection but men are a bit different. As I stated above, women, we will put our feelings out there but if the man we're dealing with doesn't, we look stupid. So to keep from looking like an ass and protecting our hearts (or so we think), we act as men do. I don't think it's good for relationships because someone ALWAYS gets hurt at one time or another, if not both parties. When it comes to putting a time limit on when to express your mate, it really doesn't matter. Well, I take that back...as long as he/she isn't "in love" in 2 or 3 days because that's a bit much. However, you can be really feeling someone in a few days depending on how much the couple has learned about each other but love...scratch that! Putting an actual time limit on ANYTHING in life is usually a no go but I know we all tend to do this (some of us more than others). Do what makes you truly comfortable! If he/she gives you a sense of trust and you see possibilities for growth...go for it. I think time limits set you up. It puts you in a box and tells you that if this doesn't happen by this time, then it's a wrap. It can also make you feel like you have to do something for an extensive amount of time before certain results occur and that's not true. Everyone is different so live a little and just let go. We'd all be surprised at the outcome of relationships if there weren't too many boundaries and limitations. We do need some but don't go too far into the deep end with it or it can be very detrimental. Explore the possibilities!!! :)


So tell me, what do YOU think?!

What's the REAL reason behind men not wanting to commit to women?!

This question has been asked many times but what's the correct answer?

I can't speak on ALL women all the time because even though we are all alike in some instances; we are different in a lot of ways. I DEFINITELY can't speak on women of other ethnic backgrounds. I'm not fully black but that's all that I can identify with and when it comes to men; black men is all I know of.

Some black women may disagree due to denial issues, but the main reason why black men don't like to commit to black women is because of...BLACK WOMEN!

I say this because like anything or anyone else, one rotten apple can spoil the whole bunch. Every race has behavior stereotypes and the way many people see black women isn't always in a good light. Being a black woman myself; the shit doesn't sound good or make you feel any better about yourself but it is what it is.

So if black women are seen as being sneaky, always gives off a bad attitude, don't know how to be submissive, and most importantly...can't SHUT THE FUCK UP; a commitment would be the LAST thing we get. Well at least one thats worth speaking of; a REAL commitment!

BLACK WOMEN:

1. If your man can't trust you; what's the point of him wasting his time with your ass for anything OTHER THAN; some ass?! Riddle me that!

2. NO ONE likes to deal with people with bad attitudes all the time. So what makes you think a man wants to be in a relationship with a woman with a nasty attitude? Your attitude is a part of your character: don't forget that.

3. When submission is concerned; black women, we need to learn how to let a man BE A MAN! You can't chastise him for EVERY wrong he makes & if you forgive him for something LET THE SHIT GOOOOO!!!

4. S.T.F.U.-SHUT THE FUCK UP sometimes! I have a problem with this @ times too but I know when enough is enough. Everything doesn't have to result in an argument. Even if you're right & he's wrong; SHUT UP. You can't win every battle so let it be. We as "Black Women" LOOOOVE to try & get our point across by any means but fail to realize that talking too much can make things worse.

***If WE worked harder @ following the 4 guidelines above; I'm willing to bet that more women would have men or be able to keep their men. Failure to take heed to what I'm saying will forever result in the same bullshit! Therefore black women will keep being labeled this way & without that relationship we long for. ESPECIALLY the S.T.F.U. rule; the next chick will forever have one up on you because she's going to do what you're not. And FYI; she just might be your friend!!!

But before I end this; there are two things that I can say about women of ALL ethnicities: 1. We say one thing about our wants & needs but can't handle it once it is given to us. 2. We want to control men & rush them into things they're not ready for.

CUT THE SHIT!!!

If you say you want a man who's genuine, a lover, great job/career, always spends time with you, sensitive & etc...just an all around "good guy;" be happy with who you get! When women describe men like that they're basically asking to find a guy on the down low! Let the man be who he is; accept it or keep it moving. Being TOO persistent on finding someone who meets every WANT on your list usually ends in disaster; just an FYI.

And lastly, all the restraints and control is unnecessary. We don't want to be fully controlled so what makes you think he wants to be treated that way?! If you treat men like dogs; they will follow through and be one.

Responses are GREATLY appreciated! :-)

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Break-Ups! The right & wrong ways to go about ending relationships & announcing it to loved ones...

What would be considered as a "good" or "bad" break-up? Does "good" break-ups REALLY exist?!

Is it ever ok to publically humiliate your ex-mate; whether it be in person or over the internet?! Especially if the two of you have been together over a year.

I do understand that things tend to go wrong at one point of another which ends in breaking up. But is there a way to call things off with someone you care for deeply or CLAIM to be in love with...WITHOUT hurting him or her even more?!

I'm the type of person that prefer to be told the truth about things as soon as possible because prolonging it is what makes things worse; it's more painful. If you're in love, breaking up is hard to do regardless of the circumstances involved. But face to face is always the way to go unless the relationship is volatile.

A more "upfront" & honest breakup would be considered as a "good" one to me. Females are GOOD at messy breakups like those mentioned above like internet based and/or via phone or text messaging. Hell, guys are known for these forms of breaking up too, nowadays. I just would like to hear the opinion of others.

I'm also wondering about how men & women should go about telling their family & friends that it's over.

I personally believe it's no ones business yet if you are close to your fam/friends; they're aware of the relationship.

This can be another way to make shit worse; even after you've called it quits. Getting TOO many people involved in the ordeal.

Any thoughts?! Feel free to expound as much as you like! :-)

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Been a while...

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

I know it's been a while; there's NO excuse for my absence but I'm happy to be back doing what I LOVE! In life, we tend to plan things out but it hardly ever goes the way we intend. For those who have been rocking with me; I GREATLY appreciate it and those who will begin to rock with me in the future...thank you as well!

I will post as MUCH as possible!!!

Life Changing Experience...Just before the New Year

On December 28th at approximately 6:30pm, this pic described my life. A moment in my life that will always be in the back of my mind. Life changing? DEFINITELY!

I never imagined what it would be like to be hit by a car; I mean, who does?! But I’ll NEVER forget the impact that it has had on my life and to think it just made a week on this past Tuesday.

I’m not sure who this is in the picture but I hope they made it through the trauma.

*Just to shine a lil more light on the poem below. Life is precious…appreciate it, love it, enjoy it, make the best of it, and try to impact someone else’s life in a positive way while doing so.*

Accidentally Torn...

Oblivious! A sudden impact out of nowhere. Confused. Where am I? How did this happen? What happens now? Which way do I turn? Will anyone come to my rescue? Hurt. Aching, shivering, ice cold, piercing, gut wrenching, unimaginable.....painful. New experience. What will the outcome be? Will there still be life or is this the end? Normal existence. STRONG, confident, ENORMOUS faith, diligent worker bee, warm hearted, unimaginably kind, prayer warrior, fearless, leader, caregiver, provider, mother, daughter, sister, friend....ultimately, a lover of all sorts. Current existence. Afraid, unsure, sore, swollen, scarred, lacking, in need, betrayed, unloved, blind, ANGRY, probing, forgotten, handicap, EMPTY!!!

All of these things reference me in so many ways. It's like a story; my story. My story starts with my breaking point; the point of oblivion. Unaware of what was going on around me and no recollection of how I ended up there. Then there's a more in depth look at my life before I lost track of myself but ending at my current state of mind.

I'm lost in a familiar world that doesn't seem to remember me...or even care to for that matter. It's like all that I knew before isn't here anymore. The family and friends I once had are slim to none. My sight seems to be perfectly fine now but maybe I was blind before?! The strength and faith that made me, ME....is not what it use to be! Are my morals and beliefs in vain?! What was "real" then is practically artificial now. My life is in shambles; turned upside down.

Crash, car, hit, bruised, limping, abandoned, heartbroken, lifeless, disoriented, ME.....torn, ACCIDENTALLY!

PSA FOR MY LADIES! *Fellas feel free to give your opinion as well. :-)*

This blog post is going to be SHORT, sweet, HONEST, & STRAIGHT to the point!

LADIES: If you have a GOOD man, GREAT man, WONDERFUL man or anything of that sort....that pays ALL the bills w/o question & just all around takes care of home, do NOT get mad @ him for wanting a little FREE time!

*This includes time w/his boys, brother(s), colleagues & etc.
**There is simply NOOOOO need for that! That man takes care of you (maybe a child y'all have or children) & makes sure that you don't have a care in the WORLD...he deserves @ LEAST that much! And ESPECIALLY if he can do all the above PLUS take care of you sexually...you need your ass whooped if you can't let him have a lil time with the fellas! (Oh and this also includes him wanting to play video games sometimes, watching the football/basketball game or something like that too. Hell, find something that interests you that you can do during that time OR find something fun in what he enjoys & do it with him!!!)
***Having a fit because your man doesn't give you much time during "game night" is straight BULLSHIT...you want MORE time, get into the game & LOVE IT...seriously?!!! What better way to kill two birds with one stone & make both parties happy?!

That is all. :-D

~♥QUEEN♥~

Poem...

I know it has been a while.....been thru it & back again!

And of course all of this comes from within, one way or another...whether from me personally or someone I know & I can relate & decided to write something on the subject. Anywho....this poem is a bit complicated yet simple at the same time & I'm sure someone will be able to relate.


"What Are We Doing?!"

I don't want to let you go...yet you're drifting,
I know I'm a bitch at times...you know the "constant bickering,"
I mean, I'm a trooper...never been one to just up & quit...but I wouldnt be myself if I continued to just sit back & take this shit,
We went from making time for one another on the regular regardless of busy schedules & the distance,
And now I'm pissed & ready to blow shit up because now I feel like I did what I shouldn't have & still doin shit I normally wouldn't have,
I'm here & you're there...I wanna say fuck it because it seems like this course has been ran & you turned out to be like any other "man,"
But then again...in life there are no mistakes,
Just lessons to be learned & different experiences in life that we need to take,
So maybe I should just be appreciative of the encounter in itself if nothing more,
Take shit for what it is....I'm sure better days are indeed instore,
So if this is goodbye, thanx for the times spent & all that came with it,
But if this is just a bumpy road that we need to cross,
None of your hard work & effort would be in vain,
In fact you'll be well compensated if you can stand the rain,
Regardless of what side you land on after the coin toss....in the end there will never be any love lost!

~♥QUEEN♥

Accept What's In Front of You or Move ON!

This may rub a few people the wrong way but...it MUST be said!

One of my pet peeves, that I've seen close friends and/or associates do time and time again is TRY AND CHANGE THEIR MAN/WOMAN! There's no way possible that you can be successful at such an act. If you think you've lucked up...THINK AGAIN! What you see is what you get in some cases but not all....this is one time where that is indeed true. I'm not speaking on appearance either...think outside the box for a second.

If you're with someone and they're not quite what you intended for them to be, try to take the good with the bad and see how happy you are then. Don't put so much energy into what's not right and more into what IS right!

I'm sure many of you have seen the movie and/or play, 'Why Did I Get Married'....this is no different! Many relationships go through the things that those 4-5 couples went through on the regular. But it's best that you take it all in stride & keep it moving. NO ONE THAT HAS EVER WALKED GOD'S GREEN EARTH IS PERFECT...UNLESS YOU ARE JESUS CHRIST, AND I KNOW NONE OF YOU ARE!!! Like in the movie, you'll never get 100% of what you want...you have a choice of an 80 or a 20.

We tend to overlook the 80 believing we're getting something far more when we're cheating ourselves in reality (i.e. the 20)! If you can honestly tell me that you have changed somene into being the person you wanted him/her to be YOU'VE BEEN BAMBOOZLED!!! The person you are speaking of is the person he/she has always been...weak, a pushover, a coward, someone who doesn't understand individuality...plain and simple! You haven't changed them because even HE/SHE doesn't know who he/she REALLY is.

If you have to take a piece a paper & put a long line down the middle & write down your pros & cons...DO SO, some people are blind to the truth and may need a visual. There's NOTHING wrong with that...to each their own.

If you come up short on the pros & have more cons then maybe you are lying to yourself, your standards are WAAAAY higher than they should be or...HE/SHE IS JUST NOT RIGHT FOR YOU! That doesn't make them a terrible person either, just not one that can mesh well with your personality and characteristics.

***Be HONEST with yourselves and take all of this into consideration, I hope it works out...that is all!!!***

~♥Queen♥~

There's a difference between being INSECURE & extra CAUTIOUS...right???

A lil food for thought:

How many of you can say...without the shadow of a doubt, that you're not INSECURE when it comes to relationships (infidelity & all of that)...not one little bit?! I'm sure the results would be little to NONE at ALL!

It's cool because I'm not all that sure myself but I'm a positive person so I'm good right? Maaaybe NOT! What if you are a guy who has a woman that has a child or children with another man or a woman that has a man who has the same situation? (whether they're on good terms or bad terms)

Here's another, what if your mate has been in several relationships & none of them lasted (of course) and the way things ended seemed far from a mutual understanding that the two of them came to & decided to just call it quits?! Or what if, 1, 2, or ALL of his/her past partners are considered to be a really good friend of his/her?

On a scale of 1-10 what do you think your ranking would be with insecure being 10 & extra cautious being 1? Is there REALLY a difference between the two anyway? I mean...you're not just cautious you're EXTRA cautious so, is that like subconscious paranoia or something on the sneak tip??? Hmmm, I wonder?!

Regardless of the number in which you would HONESTLY rank yourself as being...what's the ONE thing that EVERY relationship MUST have in order for it to be successful??? I did a post on this a while ago...it's the FOUNDATION to ALL relationships, T R U S T!!! So if your number is kind of high...where's the TRUST, where does that put your relationship?!

Just a thought! Comments are MORE than welcome & appreciated!!! :-)

~♥Queen♥~

Don't Pass Up A Good Thing...

In life, we tend to always want things in particular...or so we say! If you let us tell it, we know EXACTLY what we want in the many relationships that makes our journey here on Earth so......enchanting to say the least. But is that REALLY the case, do YOU really know what you want or are you talking out your ass and in reality you have not a clue?!

If you are certain that you know what you want, I applaud you & if you're basically stuck on stupid in the "relationship" department...don't fret because you are NOT alone! Many of us tend to THINK we have it all figured out but when the time comes and everything you said you wanted is within your grasp...what do you do?! CHOKE!!! It's human nature though, to me, & it's like they say, "you think you know but you have NO idea." That's not ALWAYS the case though.

I'll use myself as an example I guess. I'm 24 but not your average 24 year old female, I'm cut from a different cloth...sorta speak. I'm very feminine but I can hang with the fellas & my upbringing was different than most. I was forced to be an adult as a child so my mentality is different & most guys my age can be considered as mature to some but I'm wiser than my years. With this being the concept, issues arise because I seem to intimidate guys. Who ME? Yeah right...my thoughts EXACTLY!!! But that's the story of my life in a nutshell. So when the time comes for me to find my 'boo' I'm not the least bit phased by it. Prior to I'd say things like "awww, I need to find me a boo" but I wasn't all that serious, just at times when I wanted those late night 'one on one' conversations. You all know what I'm talking about right....RIGHT?!

So here comes 'boo' and I choked...well kind of. He may or may not have noticed it but I didn't quite take him seriously at first. It's not because of past relationships or anything but because of my outlook on men...not ALL but MOST! I'm thinking to myself "you can't be serious" but at the same time my conscience is saying go with the flow. I knew he was a great guy on a 'buddy/friend' level but anything more I didn't want to chance...regardless of our chemistry.

***The moral of the story is "DON'T PASS UP ON A GOOD THING!" Whether he/she is or isn't "the one" should be the LEAST of your worries, have fun...enjoy the experience that you'll get from it if nothing else. You'll NEVER know what God has in store for you at the end of that tunnel if you don't walk through it. Things may work out & they may not but are you willing to live your life in FEAR of not wanting to get your feelings hurt?! ANYTHING is possible!!!


I hope you enjoyed this and take my outlook on this topic into consideration.


~♥Queen♥~

HONESTY.....fo dat @$$!!!!

Honesty

1. the quality or fact of being honest; uprightness and fairness.
2. truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness.
3. freedom from deceit or fraud.
4. Obsolete.

I'm starting to think that SOME people don't know the TRUE meaning of the word HONESTY! It's right there, simple and plain...no need for excuses and misinterpretations now, right?!

My last post was on TRUST and I believe that HONESTY goes hand and hand with it. Being honest with people can bring about trust. If you're in an "intimate" relationship with someone and you "claim" you love them or care about them and their feelings, BE HONEST! Don't try and hide what you're really feel so that the other person is "comfortable." Making other people comfortable and happy doesn't always mean that you'll feel the same way.

Let me give you all a great example...common one at that:

Staying in a relationship & prolonging things when you're not happy isn't good for either one of you. Not wanting to "hurt his/her feelings" is a sorry ass excuse and eventually you'll both get tired of it & each other. It's best to just keep it 100 with them at ALL times. Start letting your "partner" know what's what in the beginning, therefore in the long run there won't be as many problems or misunderstandings.

***I need to be very brusque with yall on this!!!***

FELLAS: If you're just in it for the pussy...let her know upfront! Real recognizes real & a real woman would understand & appreciate you more if you let her know what was good upfront. No need to try to be on some "good guy shit" if that's not your personality. Not saying that guys who aren't looking for MONOGAMY aren't "good" guys...ladies they are probably just not trying to get into all of that yet OR maybe they just don't want to get into that with YOU! How about that?! Cruel...harsh??? Maybe, some may it consider it to be along those lines but it's HONESTY for that ass & being straight forward about it could save you both a lot of time!!!

LADIES: We're not innocent either! Some of us are just as freaky as the fellas are IF NOT more...so keep it 100 with the fellas as well. I'm not necessarily saying that you should just go around and have a bunch of "1 night stands," because that's not cute buuuuuuuuuut...to each their own!!! BOTTOM LINE: Treat the fellas how you'd want to be treated. If you want honesty & trust & all that other good shit..give it as well. Don't get your panties all in a bunch & start having "bf's" (bitch fits) because the guy you're REALLY interested in isn't ALL that interested in you. You have a choice in the matter...either take it for what it's worth or leave the shit alone...SIMPLE!!! Respect a guy who's honest & upfront because HE AIN'T HAVE TO TELL YOU SHIT, the fact that he chose to should give him bonus points.....IN MY OPINION! I meeeean, he could always lie to you & fill your head up with a whole lot of unnecessary bullshit that will never see the light of day, have you fall in love with a guy you REALLY don't know, have you so sick to the point where you want to give up all your family & friends & etc all for a nicca who only sees you as "pussy," and I didn't say GRADE-A PUSSY neither...just pussy he know he can get just because it's there & you allow it. THE CHOICE IS YOURS!!! LMFAO.

Shouts out to da homegirl Sadjr...WHAT UUUUPPP?! *hope u enjoy! ;-)*


♥QUEEN♥

The Foundation to ALL Relationships....

Trust

1. reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.
2. confident expectation of something; hope.
3. a person on whom or thing on which one relies: God is my trust.
4. the condition of one to whom something has been entrusted.
5. the obligation or responsibility imposed on a person in whom confidence or authority is placed: a position of trust.
6. charge, custody, or care: to leave valuables in someone's trust.
7. something committed or entrusted to one's care for use or safekeeping, as an office, duty, or the like; responsibility; charge.
8. (Law): a fiduciary relationship in which one person (the trustee) holds the title to property (the trust estate or trust property) for the benefit of another (the beneficiary).

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All of these are definitions of the word TRUST...the last one, which pertains to law...happens to be my favorite because it kind of seems complex with the wording yet it's simple & straight to the point.

In order to have a fruitful relationship, whether it be platonic or intimate...trust is VERY important! Without trust in your relationship, what do you have? Trust is the foundation of ALL relationships!!! If we were speaking in terms of spirtuality, trust then too would be what? YOUR FOUNDATION! How can you believe in something or someone...put your faith in it or him/her without trusting it or him/her?!

**THINK ABOUT IT...if ANY relationship that you have or feel you may have doesn't have trust, it's destined to falter!**

~~So find out if there's trust...if so, is it real or is it just convenient for the time being?! If it's real...pray about it, see if it's worth holding on to. Real trust usually is because there's a good reason as to why the trust is evident. If the trust isn't there, then why are you?~~

>>>>>I hope this post can help someone who is in need of some answers!!!

~♥QUEEN♥~

1st thing 1st....

Hello fellow bloggers/readers!

Some of you may be familiar with my other blog entitled "Pieces From Within." Anywho, this blog focus on none other than it's blog title: LESSONS IN LIFE & LOVE.....OR LACK THEREOF!

For a more formal introduction of myself...if you all would like to know more about me, feel free to hit up my other blog. (http://pieces-from-within.blogspot.com/)

Now, let's get down to business! I don't think that there's a better way of starting this blog off than like this (ENJOY):

I love plenty girls all around the world

They come and then they go

And I wrote a manual that I wanna share

With some rules everyone should knoow

Rule number Uno:

Don't never be the fool to let your spouse be gone too long cause you knoow

That jealousy eventually leads to hatred

And the longer that you take it

It's gon turn into betrayal

Number two:

Always fall through

Stayin out all night ain't an optionYou gots to

Take it from sinatra (ok)

I den hit mad dames, while they mane (man) slackin on their game

Number three:

Never trust nobody

Ya'll big said it first

Why would I say differently

Your partners lil homies always got... else

And they only bring you stress cause they want you for they self

Number four:

Ladies let me tell you what I know

Baby you can be the baddest chick

But the average chick

Will be the one to give your man the business

And you wanna know why

Cause ya can't keep a secret

Number five:

Surprise!

You should never lie

Cause what's done in the dark always comes to the light

A real human being only stands by the truth

So no matter what the problem is... exactly what you do

Number six:

Fellas don't forgot your licks

If you wanna keep her 'round

Then you besta (better) go down

Brother like me kiss it goodSwear I do it like I should

Cause I know that if I don't

Another brother would

Number seven:

That sex without protection

Forget it

Ya think you ain't playin 'round witcha (with) your life, shit

Forget it

It might look good

But one night of passion is enough to have ya end up like da boy magic

Number eight:

This one is short and sweet

If god ain't in the mix, then you're headed for defeat

Number nine:

Should've been number one to me

Fellas if ya ain't sure, don't cha (you) give her no ring

Marriage is a journey that you can't take lightly

And because she got your kids that don't mean make her your wifey

Number ten:

A good rule to be found

Love is a word that you don't throw around

So if you don't love 'em, then say hell no

Cause if you don't love 'em, you need to let 'em go

Follow these rules and I promise you will win, 'member (remember) love involves sex and sex is Not sin

Religion is the pace that ya boy Johnny on, and if you try to fight this song you wrong

And when you gone

Your girl call my man tyrone

Heard in one week

She gave da (the) boy a key to her home

Heard she ain't thinking bout ya while we out at the palms

Gotta go, gotta go, soo lifers I'm goone... !

♥QUEEN♥