This may rub a few people the wrong way but...it MUST be said!
One of my pet peeves, that I've seen close friends and/or associates do time and time again is TRY AND CHANGE THEIR MAN/WOMAN! There's no way possible that you can be successful at such an act. If you think you've lucked up...THINK AGAIN! What you see is what you get in some cases but not all....this is one time where that is indeed true. I'm not speaking on appearance either...think outside the box for a second.
If you're with someone and they're not quite what you intended for them to be, try to take the good with the bad and see how happy you are then. Don't put so much energy into what's not right and more into what IS right!
I'm sure many of you have seen the movie and/or play, 'Why Did I Get Married'....this is no different! Many relationships go through the things that those 4-5 couples went through on the regular. But it's best that you take it all in stride & keep it moving. NO ONE THAT HAS EVER WALKED GOD'S GREEN EARTH IS PERFECT...UNLESS YOU ARE JESUS CHRIST, AND I KNOW NONE OF YOU ARE!!! Like in the movie, you'll never get 100% of what you want...you have a choice of an 80 or a 20.
We tend to overlook the 80 believing we're getting something far more when we're cheating ourselves in reality (i.e. the 20)! If you can honestly tell me that you have changed somene into being the person you wanted him/her to be YOU'VE BEEN BAMBOOZLED!!! The person you are speaking of is the person he/she has always been...weak, a pushover, a coward, someone who doesn't understand individuality...plain and simple! You haven't changed them because even HE/SHE doesn't know who he/she REALLY is.
If you have to take a piece a paper & put a long line down the middle & write down your pros & cons...DO SO, some people are blind to the truth and may need a visual. There's NOTHING wrong with that...to each their own.
If you come up short on the pros & have more cons then maybe you are lying to yourself, your standards are WAAAAY higher than they should be or...HE/SHE IS JUST NOT RIGHT FOR YOU! That doesn't make them a terrible person either, just not one that can mesh well with your personality and characteristics.
***Be HONEST with yourselves and take all of this into consideration, I hope it works out...that is all!!!***
~♥Queen♥~
IM A FIRM BELIEVER IN THAT 80 20!
ReplyDeleteLol, yes....it is indeed true!!! Thanx 4 the comment!
ReplyDeleteNow me being me I set HIGH standards but i dont seek a person w/o them. When i say HIGH standards i dont want a Bum, Pushover etc. But there are certain traits that i want and will not do without. As for Changing a mate, NO you cant and will never be able to. Though some may think so, it's really just Love that has blinded their better Perspective. B4 i get involved w/ a person i take into consideration that they are who they are and they are who i'll have to deal with until the relationship comes to a halt. I seek my prince charming with flaws and all. And i ask myself ::self can i live w/ these flaws:: Anyhoo, Great post. I wish i could touch on subjects like this on my blog but i dont have the patience to so i'll just continue to comment on every1 elses topics.
ReplyDeleteI feel u on that ...thanx 4 reading & commenting!
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