What's the REAL reason behind men not wanting to commit to women?!

This question has been asked many times but what's the correct answer?

I can't speak on ALL women all the time because even though we are all alike in some instances; we are different in a lot of ways. I DEFINITELY can't speak on women of other ethnic backgrounds. I'm not fully black but that's all that I can identify with and when it comes to men; black men is all I know of.

Some black women may disagree due to denial issues, but the main reason why black men don't like to commit to black women is because of...BLACK WOMEN!

I say this because like anything or anyone else, one rotten apple can spoil the whole bunch. Every race has behavior stereotypes and the way many people see black women isn't always in a good light. Being a black woman myself; the shit doesn't sound good or make you feel any better about yourself but it is what it is.

So if black women are seen as being sneaky, always gives off a bad attitude, don't know how to be submissive, and most importantly...can't SHUT THE FUCK UP; a commitment would be the LAST thing we get. Well at least one thats worth speaking of; a REAL commitment!

BLACK WOMEN:

1. If your man can't trust you; what's the point of him wasting his time with your ass for anything OTHER THAN; some ass?! Riddle me that!

2. NO ONE likes to deal with people with bad attitudes all the time. So what makes you think a man wants to be in a relationship with a woman with a nasty attitude? Your attitude is a part of your character: don't forget that.

3. When submission is concerned; black women, we need to learn how to let a man BE A MAN! You can't chastise him for EVERY wrong he makes & if you forgive him for something LET THE SHIT GOOOOO!!!

4. S.T.F.U.-SHUT THE FUCK UP sometimes! I have a problem with this @ times too but I know when enough is enough. Everything doesn't have to result in an argument. Even if you're right & he's wrong; SHUT UP. You can't win every battle so let it be. We as "Black Women" LOOOOVE to try & get our point across by any means but fail to realize that talking too much can make things worse.

***If WE worked harder @ following the 4 guidelines above; I'm willing to bet that more women would have men or be able to keep their men. Failure to take heed to what I'm saying will forever result in the same bullshit! Therefore black women will keep being labeled this way & without that relationship we long for. ESPECIALLY the S.T.F.U. rule; the next chick will forever have one up on you because she's going to do what you're not. And FYI; she just might be your friend!!!

But before I end this; there are two things that I can say about women of ALL ethnicities: 1. We say one thing about our wants & needs but can't handle it once it is given to us. 2. We want to control men & rush them into things they're not ready for.

CUT THE SHIT!!!

If you say you want a man who's genuine, a lover, great job/career, always spends time with you, sensitive & etc...just an all around "good guy;" be happy with who you get! When women describe men like that they're basically asking to find a guy on the down low! Let the man be who he is; accept it or keep it moving. Being TOO persistent on finding someone who meets every WANT on your list usually ends in disaster; just an FYI.

And lastly, all the restraints and control is unnecessary. We don't want to be fully controlled so what makes you think he wants to be treated that way?! If you treat men like dogs; they will follow through and be one.

Responses are GREATLY appreciated! :-)

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Break-Ups! The right & wrong ways to go about ending relationships & announcing it to loved ones...

What would be considered as a "good" or "bad" break-up? Does "good" break-ups REALLY exist?!

Is it ever ok to publically humiliate your ex-mate; whether it be in person or over the internet?! Especially if the two of you have been together over a year.

I do understand that things tend to go wrong at one point of another which ends in breaking up. But is there a way to call things off with someone you care for deeply or CLAIM to be in love with...WITHOUT hurting him or her even more?!

I'm the type of person that prefer to be told the truth about things as soon as possible because prolonging it is what makes things worse; it's more painful. If you're in love, breaking up is hard to do regardless of the circumstances involved. But face to face is always the way to go unless the relationship is volatile.

A more "upfront" & honest breakup would be considered as a "good" one to me. Females are GOOD at messy breakups like those mentioned above like internet based and/or via phone or text messaging. Hell, guys are known for these forms of breaking up too, nowadays. I just would like to hear the opinion of others.

I'm also wondering about how men & women should go about telling their family & friends that it's over.

I personally believe it's no ones business yet if you are close to your fam/friends; they're aware of the relationship.

This can be another way to make shit worse; even after you've called it quits. Getting TOO many people involved in the ordeal.

Any thoughts?! Feel free to expound as much as you like! :-)

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Been a while...

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

I know it's been a while; there's NO excuse for my absence but I'm happy to be back doing what I LOVE! In life, we tend to plan things out but it hardly ever goes the way we intend. For those who have been rocking with me; I GREATLY appreciate it and those who will begin to rock with me in the future...thank you as well!

I will post as MUCH as possible!!!

Life Changing Experience...Just before the New Year

On December 28th at approximately 6:30pm, this pic described my life. A moment in my life that will always be in the back of my mind. Life changing? DEFINITELY!

I never imagined what it would be like to be hit by a car; I mean, who does?! But I’ll NEVER forget the impact that it has had on my life and to think it just made a week on this past Tuesday.

I’m not sure who this is in the picture but I hope they made it through the trauma.

*Just to shine a lil more light on the poem below. Life is precious…appreciate it, love it, enjoy it, make the best of it, and try to impact someone else’s life in a positive way while doing so.*

Accidentally Torn...

Oblivious! A sudden impact out of nowhere. Confused. Where am I? How did this happen? What happens now? Which way do I turn? Will anyone come to my rescue? Hurt. Aching, shivering, ice cold, piercing, gut wrenching, unimaginable.....painful. New experience. What will the outcome be? Will there still be life or is this the end? Normal existence. STRONG, confident, ENORMOUS faith, diligent worker bee, warm hearted, unimaginably kind, prayer warrior, fearless, leader, caregiver, provider, mother, daughter, sister, friend....ultimately, a lover of all sorts. Current existence. Afraid, unsure, sore, swollen, scarred, lacking, in need, betrayed, unloved, blind, ANGRY, probing, forgotten, handicap, EMPTY!!!

All of these things reference me in so many ways. It's like a story; my story. My story starts with my breaking point; the point of oblivion. Unaware of what was going on around me and no recollection of how I ended up there. Then there's a more in depth look at my life before I lost track of myself but ending at my current state of mind.

I'm lost in a familiar world that doesn't seem to remember me...or even care to for that matter. It's like all that I knew before isn't here anymore. The family and friends I once had are slim to none. My sight seems to be perfectly fine now but maybe I was blind before?! The strength and faith that made me, ME....is not what it use to be! Are my morals and beliefs in vain?! What was "real" then is practically artificial now. My life is in shambles; turned upside down.

Crash, car, hit, bruised, limping, abandoned, heartbroken, lifeless, disoriented, ME.....torn, ACCIDENTALLY!