Men & Women and Our Feelings...

I was on Twitter a little while ago and friend of mine posted this:

"Women can front all dey want but when u're getn piped right, u develop feelings in some sort of way." (via @skmusic)

So of course, me being who I am...I had a response.

"Agreed! Goes both ways doe."

He agreed with me as well and I took that as an ok to expound a bit more.

"Yup & women would be cool w/expressing feelings but men keep their feelings bottled in..so we be like wtf imma look stupid 4?! So of course we put on like y'all do. Which is a dumb cycle but u know..that's life! Lol."

I thought this would be great topic for us to discuss and maybe we can dig deeper into the reason behind each gender feeling the way that we do and possibly come up with a solution. A solution is a bit far-fetched but hell, anything can happen right?!

Even though I'm well aware of what feelings are; I decided to hit up my good friend dictionary.com for a better understanding of the word and ALL of its meanings.

Feeling:
noun
1.the function or the power of perceiving by touch.
2.physical sensation not connected with sight, hearing, taste, or smell.
3.a particular sensation of this kind: a feeling of warmth; a feeling of pain.
4.the general state of consciousness considered independently of particular sensations, thoughts, etc.
5.a consciousness or vague awareness: a feeling of inferiority.
6.an emotion or emotional perception or attitude: a feeling of joy; a feeling of sorrow.
7.capacity for emotion, especially compassion: to have great feeling for the sufferings of others.
8.a sentiment; attitude; opinion: The general feeling was in favor of the proposal.
9.feelings, sensibilities; susceptibilities: to hurt one's feelings.
10.fine emotional endowment.
adjective
11.sensitive; sentient.
12.readily affected by emotion; sympathetic: a feeling heart.
13.indicating or characterized by emotion: a feeling reply to the charge.

So now that it is evident that we know what a feeling is and what feelings are caused by; I questioned the aspect of our feelings completely and how we go about them.

When is it ok for a man or woman to express his/her feelings to his/her partner? (whether they're a "couple" or just kicking it)

Does the amount of time REALLY matter?!

Does waiting TOO long hender the relationship or make the feelings stronger?

How can we change that for the better?!


Me personally, I feel like women love to show emotion and affection but men are a bit different. As I stated above, women, we will put our feelings out there but if the man we're dealing with doesn't, we look stupid. So to keep from looking like an ass and protecting our hearts (or so we think), we act as men do. I don't think it's good for relationships because someone ALWAYS gets hurt at one time or another, if not both parties. When it comes to putting a time limit on when to express your mate, it really doesn't matter. Well, I take that back...as long as he/she isn't "in love" in 2 or 3 days because that's a bit much. However, you can be really feeling someone in a few days depending on how much the couple has learned about each other but love...scratch that! Putting an actual time limit on ANYTHING in life is usually a no go but I know we all tend to do this (some of us more than others). Do what makes you truly comfortable! If he/she gives you a sense of trust and you see possibilities for growth...go for it. I think time limits set you up. It puts you in a box and tells you that if this doesn't happen by this time, then it's a wrap. It can also make you feel like you have to do something for an extensive amount of time before certain results occur and that's not true. Everyone is different so live a little and just let go. We'd all be surprised at the outcome of relationships if there weren't too many boundaries and limitations. We do need some but don't go too far into the deep end with it or it can be very detrimental. Explore the possibilities!!! :)


So tell me, what do YOU think?!